Significant Events in one’s Life…THE BIG 65
Birthdays……… during our life’s journey we set them as mile posts. Sweet sixteen, Eighteen, twenty-one, The big 4-0, and then the dreaded 65………. I started complaining when I hit 55 and started receiving the dreaded hate mail from the AARP. Then the members of the church senior citizens group started inviting me to their meetings. Now granted Bill is a bit older than me, so I guess they were inviting him and I could come along for the ride (at least that’s what I told myself). So on May 20th, I hit the big 65.
So what are the changes that come with this milestone? Do I feel any different than I did at 64? Not really! Other than the fact that I have a Medicare card in my wallet, this is just another one of those arbitrary milestones that we create in our mind. Being 65, though, is sure different from being 16 or 21. My bones ache and I have all kinds of health problems that I didn’t have back then. Some minor and some major that make me wish that my body could be 21 but I would keep my mind as it is. The wisdom and the sense of calm when facing life’s problems at age 65, is something that I don’t want to trade in. When you are young, you are so self-absorbed that your judgment and reactions to living are clouded…… you know the old saying, “you can’t see the forest for the trees”. Living 65 years gives you a “Big Picture” attitude and you can glide past the minutia of a given situation and cut right to the meat of the matter. So I love the mental clarity that my age gives me! Mental clarity….cool! Aching bones and shortness of breath….not so cool! The worst part of growing old is that when you finally have the time and the finances to do what you want to, you don’t have the energy or the physical condition to accomplish it! FRUSTRATING!
So I struggled to be able to draw in enough breath to blow out 65 candles ( who’s kidding, I can at best get about 15 out on good day…..good old asthma), I think about birthdays past. Reminiscing about my childhood, a magical time for sure, I flip through pictures and think about all those other milestones, as I journey along the path that is life.